How to Heal the Hurt Through Forgiveness

When you’ve been hurt by someone, it’s common to feel resentful. You may harbor this resentment for years, perhaps waiting for an apology or for something to happen that would “right the wrong.” Forgiveness may seem impossible, as if it would be disloyal to yourself to even consider forgiving those who hurt you.

Time may only make you more upset, offended, cynical, or detached. You might direct your resentment onto other people who don’t deserve it. As fair as it is to feel hurt over the incident, it may seem as though you are mired in the misery and resentment of the situation without relief.

Eventually, as you notice how toxic and damaging resentment is, you might want some relief. Although it is harder, fortunately you can forgive people without receiving an apology. You may begin to realize that forgiveness does not mean that what had happened is all right; but rather, that, as you are forgiving, you can move on from hurtful events.

First, you must stop blaming yourself for other people’s inappropriate behavior, and acknowledge that they really hurt you. Begin to abandon the experience of acting like a victim and acknowledge that you didn’t deserve their disrespectful behavior. Forgive yourself for any role you played in the incident, and recognize that you did indeed survive the experience.

And last, but perhaps the most difficult part of the process, is your recognition that the person who has hurt you has probably had personal experiences in their life that have resulted in their behavior. They probably would have acted in a different way if their life were more nurturing past to develop understanding and wisdom. Once you are able to understand that, the painful experience and how it relates to your life will make more sense, and you can appreciate the learning experience that resulted from the situation.

You will finally realize the powerful gift that forgiveness is as you complete the healing process. You will experience relief at being able to let your resentment go and you will be able to make more room in your life for consideration and compassion. If you would like to read more about forgiveness I would recommend Sidney and Suzanne Simon’s book “Forgiveness: How to Make Peace With Your Past and Get On With Your Life.

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How to Forgive Yourself and Feel Set Free

People continually think that it needs a lot of tricky work or that it is hard to forgive. Fundamentally it is way easier than you’ll think to forgive anbother person. There’s also a pleasure to forgiving that arrives once we have surrendered our life to God. The act of forgiveness releases the obligations of our heart to a larger power, freeing us to have a heart of joy and excitement. Discovering how to frogive yourself is a step toward a life of liberty.

I was told the other day that God does not forget our sins once we ask for forgiveness. That is in contrast to what His word declares.

For I’ll forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more. Hebrews 8:12

For us, there is a difference between forgiving ourselves and forgetting the incorrect we have done. God can remove your sin from His mind; we do not have the same capability. The sin we committed may linger in our minds and there could be lasting implications from our acts of disobedience. Yet God tells us we are forgiven and our sins are so far as east is from west.

So far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our sins from us. Psalm 103:12

Does God’s forgiveness have anything to do with the solemnness of our deeds? No, God doesn’t put any qualifiers like, this sin or that sin requires something additional because of the severity of the wrong.

Are you able to live the life God desires for you if you don't forgive yourself? How frequently will you beat yourself up or let your heart be encumbered with the sin in your life. When God’s word tells us to admit our sins it carries no qualifiers, it simply states we are forgiven and purified.

If we confess our sins, he is trustworthy and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

Is forgiving ourselves really easy? Yes, it is if you realize the difficult work was borne by Jesus at the cross. It would not be correct to say forgiveness came at a small price. I'm able to forgive, myself and others and forgive promptly, because Jesus death on the cross. He suffered a horrible death and for 6 hours He was totally separated from His Father so I may have forgiveness of my sins. What would that say about the cost of His sacrifice if I did not want to forgive myself? An additional piece on forgivng.

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Discovering How To Forgive Someone

There is a liberty outside your wildest imagination when you fpardon someone for the hurt and pain they caused against you. It lets go so much pent up hurt, frustration, strain and much more. Each one of us has encountered the bondage of unforgiveness in our own lives. If you haven’t experienced the joy of forgiveness I ask you to forgive a person which has committed a wrong against you.

It’s irrelevant if they have asked for pardon or not; you are still able to forgive them. You see, it actually has zilch to do with that individual. This act of forgiveness is between you and God. Now, there’s a reason we will be able to pardon someone that caused us harm and may not have asked for our forgiveness. It’s your Heavenly Father sending His Son to earth to die a terrible death on a cross. Due to His dying we not only have our own sin forgiven but we will be able to give forgiveness to others. Let me share a a few verses with you from the book of Matthew that many people have trouble understanding.

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your Heavenly Father will also pardon you. But if you don’t pardon others their sins, your Heavenly Father will not forgive your sins.

Matthew 6:14-15

God’s words are extraordinarily straight forward, He needs us to pardon others their sins in order to be, ourselves, forgiven. Some people fight this verse and think it is capricious. I can tell you from experience this verse is very freeing. I just excused somebody even though they had not requested forgiveness and they don’t know I have forgiven them. This forgiveness was simply between God and me; it had nothing to do with the other person. It is somebody I care for much and one day they may know I pardoned them without their request. How did it free me? It enables me to love them in a way that respects God, it dumps “you did this or you probably did that to me” and it frees my heart from the weight of their sin. Studying about forgiving otherswill give you a freedom.you have unknown.

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Discovering - How to Forgive Yourself

Where are your past sins? Did you ask God to forgive them and have you turned away? If yes, then your sins are buried at the foot of Jesus cross. Did you know that God doesn’t even remember your sin. God forgetting and recollecting no more is virtually incredible and the only way I know it’s correct is because God’s word tells me in multiple passages.

In one passage it informs me He forgets as far as east is from west. That distance simply can't be measured and that explains why God used it as a reference. You can measure north to south due to the north pole and south pole but east to west cannot be measured. His word also tells me he doesn't remember, I don't how you get any more clear.

God’s desire is for you to forgive yourself and as best you can to forget your previous sin. Now for us mortals that's a little bit tougher. God sent us the Holy Spirit after Jesus went to Heaven and He is our comforter and helper. You should call oh Him to help you forget your past sin. Here’s a wonderful piece Forgiving Others.

How do I forgive my past sins? You are not forgiving yourself like God has forgiven you but you say if He has forgiven me then I should forgive myself. Most of us think that’s hard. Oftentimes we will forgive someone else for their sin quicker than we may forgive ourselves. Are we being prideful and putting a raised standard of forgiveness on ourselves. Do we think that we are closer to God than the person I excused so because of my relationship with God my sin is worse? I’d call that prideful and that's a sin to God.

I have seen killers forgiven by God and while they may never utterly forget their wrong they know God has forgiven them and they have a choice. Forgive themselves and grow nearer to God or to remain in a spot where they're telling God He is wrong. I've seen well known pastors who have committed sin and have asked for forgiveness from God and then they were forced to forgive themselves.

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How to Forgive Someone - It’s God’s Way

When we have been hurt by some other person and perhaps it was a deep hurt and the wound simply isn’t healing there is a way. It is God’s way and His way is simply better. You see you are not willing to forgive is eating you alive not the person that brought on the harm. Isn’t that interesting, you probably did no wrong, or so you say, and the one that hurt you is continuing to harm you although they’re not involved in your life today. Yes they are involved and they will be till you decide to forgive them. You may ask, “Well I do not have to forgive them because they have not ask for forgiveness.”

Not forgiving someone that did you wrong isn't God’s way. It really isn't about them, it is about you and your willingness to hear God. It is about you and your relationship with your Heavenly Father.

If one has hurt me and the injuries are awfully deep and they haven't asked for forgiveness I am suppose to, according to God, forgive them? That is a good summation of forgiving others. Let me share a little from God’s point of view. He cares about you and He wants you to live a life of joy, peace and one where you are excited about what tomorrow will bring.

He is going to deal with the person that brought you discomfort. He doesn’t want any of us to be the judge over the one who brought harm. His desire is for every one of us to modify and to grow more Christ like, it’s called sanctification. Maturing into more Christ like. Now who do you think will bring a bigger change in the person who hurt you, you or God.

Like all things in life they are better left to Him and than taken on ourselves. If He asserts forgive just do it and then you will see some amazing results. It is like that with God in everything we give to Him.Forgiving Others is a great article.

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Forgiving Others - Why?

What does God expect from us when another person injures us? He expects us to forgive that person. That may seem opposite form the worlds standard. Logically it appears the person should ask for forgiveness, tell us they are sorry and guarantee to never hurt us again. Then the conditions would be ripe to forgive them with a little warning to never hurt us again. That is not God’s way.

God’s way is for us to forgive the person that harmed us even if forgiveness isn’t asked. You see we're not forgiving them from the wrongful doing that is God’s job. That explains why He sent His Son to die on a cross for our sins. Interesting that God sent His Son before we even asked Him for forgiveness. By forgiving our mate or relation or whoever harmed us we are setting ourselves free from the burden of carrying hurtfulness in our hearts.

It is simple for us to forgive someone if we have surrendered our life to God. This life is about Him and not about myself. It is simple to forgive others but our easiness came at a surprisingly high cost. God sending His Son to earth and offering Him as a sacrifice for our sins. Consider that Jesus was sinless, He was innocent yet he was beaten beyond any man and he was hung for our sins. What had Jesus done wrong?

Nothing. He was being subservient to His Heavenly Father. On the cross Jesus in a loud voice said that it is finished. His last act for you and me was to die for our sins and so we can have a relationship with God.

For this high price God and Jesus paid God expects us to forgive others who have done us wrong. It says in Matthew that if we don’t forgive others God won’t forgive us. to discover more visit how to frogive someone

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Learning About Forgiving Others

It simply, for most of us, is not very easy to forgive someone. Why should we forgive the person that hurt us, particularly if they have not asked for forgiveness? While I have certainly hurt others in my life I have also been on the other end. I can recall some unpleasant injures from mates, business partners and from relations. It is tough to take that step of forgiveness.

A number of years back I had a partner who had developed a product and wanted my assistance in marketing his product. Because I trusted him I put in an incredible number of hours and then received an e-mail that he no longer cared to resume the relationship. For a minute or two I was terribly upset and then I made a decision to simply praise God and to put the problem in His hands.

1 or 2 days later after a prayer group time with some chums I felt God was reminding me to forgive my partner and He went further. Because of some scripture that had been read the prior night He laid on my heart not only to forgive but to offer to help this fellow get His product to market. So here's what god desired for me to do, forgive and to loan my abilities with no strings attached and no monetary reward.

I listened to God and forgave without him asking. That was the first reward I received, a lifting of any antagonism or resentment to my former partner. If I hadn't forgiven the events would have burdened me and by forgiving others I was joyful and felt free from the circumstances.

By helping this fellow I brought glory to god which is God’s purpose for our lives to bring Him glory in all we do. I also demonstrated to God that I needed to please Him above any worldly reward I could ever obtain.

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How To Forgive Yourself Living Life Set Free

People often think that it needs a lot of tough work or it is hard to forgive. Actually it is way easier than you may imagine to forgive others. There’s also a sweetness to forgiving that comes when we have surrendered our life to God. The process of forgiveness lets go the burdens of our heart to a bigger power, freeing each of us to have a heart of joy and peacefulness. Discovering how to frogive yourself is a first step in the direction of a life of freedom.

I read the other day that God does not forget our sins after we ask for forgiveness of our sins. That’s simply in contrast to what His word asserts.

For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.

Hebrews 8:12

For each of us, there’s a difference between forgiving ourselves and forgetting the wrong we have done. God is able to remove your sin from His mind; we don’t have the same capability. The sin we committed may stay in our thoughts and there could be lasting effects from our acts of sinfulness. Yet God tells us we are pardoned and our sins are as far as east is from west.

As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our sins from us.

Psalm 103:12

Does the forgiveness of God have anything to do with the seriousness of our actions? No, God does not put any qualifiers like, this sin or that sin requires something extra because of the severity of the sin.

Will you be able to live the life God meant for you if you don’t forgive yourself? How many times will you beat yourself up or let your heart be burdened with the sin in your life. When God’s word declares for us to confess our sins it has no qualifiers, it actualy says every one of are forgiven and purified.

If we confess our sins, he’s dependable and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

1 John 1:9

Is forgiving ourselves simple? Yes, it is if you know the tough work was borne by Jesus at the cross. It wouldn’t be accurate to say forgiveness came at a small cost. I can forgive, myself and others and forgive unreservedly, because Jesus died on the cross. He suffered dreadful death and for SIX hours He was completely separated from His Heavenly Father so I could have forgiveness of my sins. What would that say about the value of His sacrifice if I refused to forgive myself?

I encourage you to take advantage of our complimentary present, “God’s Answer?” It’ll show you how to live life through a power which will transform your life. This journey of yours isn't about your skills or capabilities or anything you can do to change your life. It is about permitting the power of God to radically change you.

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